Many people find themselves experiencing relationship problems and would like help in working out the issues. Perhaps you’re having communication problems in your relationship, perhaps your experiencing relationship conflict or perhaps you have some important decisions to make regarding your relationship.
If, after you have tried to resolve your worries, you find that you are unable to resolve them it might be time to seek help.
Far too many couples leave Counselling until it’s too late. By the time of their first appointment, years of bitterness and resentment have built up and the fear of being hurt blocks out any chance of change. If you’re experiencing any of the following, maybe now is the time to consider counselling:
• When you talk to your partner, it feels as though you’re hitting a brick wall
• Your conversations just go round and round in never-ending circles
• After you’ve talked, you feel frustrated and confused
• You can’t talk for more than a few minutes without it turning into a shouting match
• You’re afraid that if you bring up a certain subject, things will get even worse
• There’s nothing left to say
You will learn the skills that enable you to communicate your needs, wants and desires. You learn how to manage conflict with ease and put excitement and enthusiasm back into your relationships.
It is always better to enter into counselling as a partnership, with both parties working together to solve your issues. If your partner refuses to join you, you can also benefit from working out what changes you can make that might improve your relationship. You may even want to talk about how to end your relationship in the best way for all parties.
Some people also prefer to have counselling on their own at first to work out their feelings before coming together.
It is never too late to save a relationship, if you both are working towards the same goal.